questions for a leo

Clair sent me a link of personal questions that some people have about each sign. I can't confirm if anyone has ever asked themselves these questions about me but I like answering questions either way.

Why do other people’s opinions matter so much to you?

I can't say this applies to me anymore. Perhaps it could've been true up until early this year. Earlier in the year I went through a situation in which I heard different negative opinions about myself. They were posted publicly and I was also sent private messages loaded with judgement. After the incident I realized that people will see the truth that fits them and I can't do anything about it. At the end of the day I will always be able to count on the people who love me, and despite my flaws and wrong doings, forgive me. And since then I slowly shed any importance I gave to the opinions of outsiders and grew thicker skin. As Anthony Hopkins said, "What others think of me is none of my business." On the rare occassion that I do find out that someone has been saying negative things about me I might take it into consideration and use it to have myself a moment of introspection and an opportunity for growth. If I disagree with their opinions I usually reply, "They have all the right to their own opinions and feelings." I shrug it off and move on. There's also the rare occassion when I think the things which are said reveal the darkness in the person and I feel a little sad for them because usually that kind of behavior means they are extremely unhappy and bitter. Most often I wish them good things so that they have a happy enough life for them not to have any time to think of me. 

Why do you have to win every argument you get into?


I don't feel the need to win arguments. I tend to avoid arguments because I think them unnecessary but once someone refuses to allow a matter to settle peacefully then I engage with hard facts and not feelings. With observations, not suspicions. Most of all I try my best to remain calm, collected, and cold. It's very rare for me to get into arguments but on the rare occassion that I do get into one I don't strive to "win." I would much rather reach a middle ground and resolve the issue. 


Will you ever be able to fully show another person your flaws and insecurities and realize they still love you even if you’re not perfect?

I think I tell the world what my flaws are. As for my insecurities, no, there has only been one person who knew all my insecurities, fears, the things that hurt me, everything I hated, and everything I yearned for. And he turned out to be one of the biggest traumas in my life. I would find it very hard to trust someone that way again. 

Better explained in song form: 

I'm not exceptionally shy
But I've never had a man
That I could look straight in the eye
And tell my secret plans

The Perfect Fit, by The Dresden Dolls